The other day I messaged a friend who moved to New York to pursue a career in acting to ask how NYC was treating him.
He responded saying, “It’s both amazing and terrible in the massive undertaking this feels like…I’ve done some auditions that felt real good, but I’m also panicking daily as if this was a mistake.”
I wrote back, “That’s a good thing. If you weren’t pushing your limits you wouldn’t be panicking. Growth occurs outside of the comfort zone.”
This is something I share with many of my clients. When we feel comfortable it means that we’re playing safely within the walls that our ego has built for us. It’s when we start to venture outside those walls that the ego goes on high alert, making you second guess every decision and feel terrified about what could happen. Living fearlessly helps you to push those boundaries.
Merriam-Webster dictionary defines fearless as being “free from fear”. But, I disagree.
In my opinion, fearlessness isn’t being free from fear. It’s acknowledging our fear and deciding to take action anyway. It’s not that it doesn’t exist, but we use it to fuel us and move forward. Your fearlessness shows you where your limits are so that you can begin the process of expanding beyond them. That’s the sweet spot where growth occurs.
At the beginning of this year, I was terrified of creating a Tarot course and sharing it with the world. Instead of letting that fear hold me back, I got curious. Why was I so scared of this? What limitations was this fear showing me? Once I understood where my fear was coming from I took steps to work through it. Now I’m about to end the first semester of the class that I created and start teaching a summer session a week later. I’ve also learned a hell of a lot more than I would have if I’d just decided to let fear have control.
Get curious the next time you feel fear creeping in. Where’s it coming from? What is it showing you? Acknowledge that it’s there, thank it, and then start the process of working through it.